“People don’t change” is a lie we tell ourselves to avoid taking responsibility for the misery we’ve created in our own lives.  But it’s such a common lie that many of us have internalized it. We think we believe that people don’t change. Once a bastard always a bastard. Once a saint always a saint. … Continue reading People Don’t Change →

Welcome to the next installment of the ‘Get a Hobby’ series!  If you’re new to this series I highly recommend checking out ‘Get a Hobby, Part 0: Why bother?’, for an overview of the amazing benefits a hobby can bring into your life! If you’re interested in fun and enjoyable ways to explore your passions, … Continue reading Get A Hobby, Part 1: Disc Golf →

DISCLAIMER: If you’re reading this right now and you’re experiencing anxiety or depression, if you feel hopeless and helpless, please know that you aren’t alone. Myself and millions of others have been there too. It’s okay that you don’t know how to help yourself. I give you permission to ask for help. There are people out … Continue reading Meditation Saved My Life →

The relationships we have in life can be split into two categories: parallel and intersecting. Please note: This is just one framework for thinking about relationships. It is not meant to be treated as a strict binary, but simply another lens to look through that could offer a helpful perspective. A parallel relationship is one … Continue reading A Framework For Relationships →

This is the first installment in an ongoing series on hobbies.  I’ll spend the rest of ‘Part 0’ extolling the virtues of ‘the hobby’, and subsequent posts in the series will consist of short but thorough explorations of particular hobbies. Through this series, I hope that you will be energized to take up a new … Continue reading Get A Hobby, Part 0: Why Bother? →

Image by liuzishan on Freepik Two fears hold all of us back from the lives we want. These fears keep us from doing the things we want to do, the things we know we should do, the things that would bring us the most joy.  The first is the fear of not living up to … Continue reading Two Fears Hold Us Back →

I came across a concept some time ago, years ago, that has stuck with me ever since. The concept is that every six months you experience so much life that the person you are in month one is fundamentally different than the person you are in month six. Simply put, you become a new person … Continue reading A Framework For Daily Choices →

What do we really take with us as we travel through time? Things like houses, cars, and our belongings are, for all intents and purposes, consumables. They are temporary, replaceable, inanimate, and largely unimportant in the grand scheme. What about relationships? Do relationships travel with us through time? Not really. Relationships are fundamentally external to … Continue reading Time Changes Everything →

Disclaimer: If you haven’t read my last post, this one may not make much sense.  I’d recommend starting here.  If you read my last post you’ll know that I left you hanging.  I said I’d circle back to a couple things and I never did. The two points that went unaddressed were steel-man objections to … Continue reading Loose Ends, Bridges and Roads Model, Speed Wobble →